What is domestic violence?Domestic violence is any form of abuse, violence and or coercion by a partner or previous partner that serves to establish and maintain power and control over another person, is enacted in a context of unequal power or privilege and has the potential to cause harm to the physical and or emotional well being of that person.
Abuse or violence in a relationship is about a pattern of behaviour that one person uses against another to intimidate them and get them to do what they want. Abuse is not just physical violence.
This involves physical acts such hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking...or threatening to harm you in any way. It could involve using a weapon or object to threaten or hurt you. This also includes object damage, throwing or smashing things, breaking furniture or personal items and hurting or killing pets. Hurting someone physically or threatening to hurt them is a criminal offence.
This involves pressuring or forcing you to do sexual things that you don't want to do. Even if your boyfriend has not physically forced you to have sex with him, if he tried to manipulate you or coerce you into having sex when you didn't want to, this is still sexual abuse. It is also sexual assault if you have been drinking or taking drugs or if you were asleep or unconscious and you were not aware of what was happening. Rape and other forms of sexual assault are criminal offences
This is when your boyfriend or partner puts you down, calls you names or yells at you. It may be about what you are wearing or how you're acting. Telling you you're useless or wrong.
Making threats, ignoring, using looks or actions or speaking in ways which are frightening or threatening and/or making you think your crazy. Another form of emotional abuse is when he threatens to hurt you or himself if you break up with him.
This involves your boyfriend or partner constantly criticising and being suspicious of your family and friends, being moody when your friends are around and making them feel uncomfortable about being there. Not allowing you to have your own friends. It also involves controlling what you do, whom you talk to, where you go and question you on every detail of what you did without him. He may use jealousy or anger to intimidate you or to control your behaviour or he might deliberately humiliate you in front of other people.
This involves keeping you financially dependent, trying to stop you from getting a job, controlling the money, refusing to involve you in financial decision making, making you ask for money and making you account for the money you spent.
This is when your partner stops you from practicing the religion of your choice, going to church, reading religious material. Or it could be the opposite where he forces you to practice the religion of his choice. He may also use religious teachings or readings to justify his behaviour.
Is used to demonstrate power and control over the family. It helps keep victims isolated, forces the family to keep violence secret, and enforces submission.
Telephone calls, constant text messaging on mobile phones, letters and messages through friends are used to harass, intimidate and threaten.
Often relates to but is not exclusively violence by other family members. Indigenous communities and families. This needs expanding.