Some practical info for women experiencing domestic violence
Keep a diary
Make a note every time you are assaulted giving the day and time. That way you can easily recall what actually happened whether you are going to see the police or even if you are not ready to report such incidences.
Tell someone
Tell a friend, a relative or someone at work what you've been exposed to. That way someone knows even if you don't have the strength to do anything about it at the time.
Document your injuries
Make notes and try to take photos of your injuries. If you see a doctor make sure he/she takes pictures too. Even if you're not ready now those photos can be used the day you decide to take legal action to protect yourself.
He says this was the only/last time
Find a line of retreat so you can leave quickly if he assaults you again. Find out where you can go at any hour, maybe a friend, a relative or the social authorities. Ask your friend for a key to her house - that way you always have a place to go. Look up the nearest domestic violence service during office hours, or the police after hours.
Contact a shelter or domestic violence service
At a Woman's Shelter/Service you can talk to someone and get help if you so choose. The women you talk to will always listen, believe you and never question your experiences. You will not be asked to leave your partner!
You will be given options to choose.
Make a police report
Make it very clear that you won't accept his behaviour. VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN IS A CRIME. Reporting the perpetrator is crucial. Both for your sake and for the perpetrator to understand that what he did was a criminal offence.
Don't trust him when he says he'll stop
The man is usually tender and kind in-between the physical abuse. He comforts her and tends to her injuries. This inconsistency makes the women focus on how kind he is rather than the fact that he abuses her.
A woman doesn't necessarily have to be physically locked up to be a prisoner in her relationship. Fear, mental and physical exhaustion renders her incapable of leaving. To leave a man that is regularly abusive is not an easy thing to do. The woman needs plenty of help and support to rid herself of the grip he has on her and take control of her life again. Step by step and little by little she can prepare herself to leave.